Are you an Al Bundy talking about how you once scored four touchdowns in a single game in high school?
I hope not, certainly you’ve done something of relevance and importance since then.
I’ve been very honest over the years about my performance in school; to catch you up to speed I spent five years in high school and even then I just barely graduated.
I was unfocused, unmotivated, immature, and simply did not care…
I’ve since learned of ways to ensure that I’m creating new stories, having new adventures, and creating new memories which are better than “the good ole days” could have ever been.
How do you live a life of purpose?
The best way to avoid ever feeling like your life has no purpose is for you to be constantly evolving.
You can’t find yourself in a routine of death-by-boredom if you don’t allow yourself to live a boring life. We’re in the middle of the COVID-19 Quarantine and I’ve seen and heard a lot of friends and family talking about how they’re “Soooo bored” and it blows my mind.
I’ve been busier than ever.
This isn’t coincidence, I positioned myself to where I knew I’d have plenty going on and goals to be reached which would propel me forward.
Put yourself in a position to achieve and remain busy by setting goals; not “I want to lose 5lbs” goals which you’ll blow off in a week.
Set real goals which have deadlines and accountability.
I’m going to lose 5lbs in two weeks and I’m going to tell my friend about it and if I don’t lose the weight by then, I’m going to give them $200.
Sign up for online classes which require attendance, performance, and will get you into a routine where you have to show up and do some work while others mope around.
How to “Restart” your life
So how can you restart your life and break from the routine of redundancy without progress?
For many it will take very bold action:
For me it was joining the Navy; I can honestly say that joining the Navy changed my entire life.
It instilled confidence, competence, allowed me to “re-invent” myself, and for once take pride in who I was and what I could do.
The kid who spent 5 years in high school ended up getting his Bachelor’s, Master’s, grad certs, and is currently enrolled in two more grad certs to be completed by the end of the year.
All it took was uprooting my life, being shipped to bootcamp, going through schools, deploying twice, and refusing to ever compromise my integrity or standard in the process.
No big deal, right?
If you’re in a toxic relationships, you may have to finally say enough is enough and cut the co-dependent bullshit off. they’re an anchor and you’re never going to break free so long as you’re tied down.
If you’re working a dead end job that pays you peanuts yet is comfortable because you have your routine and have a sense of “security“, it’s likely past time you polished the resume and broke free from the comfort and pushed yourself to see what you’re truly capable of.
If you’re lacking a sense of identity, self-worth, or finding any point in life then you likely need to uproot and leave.
The only people I’ve met who can’t see the point to life are those who’ve done nothing and gone nowhere.
If you haven’t left your hometown and haven’t pushed yourself to achieving a goal which required you to be somewhat uncomfortable, of course you’re going to be living an apathetic life; you aren’t doing anything.
Living a good life is for those who are willing to put in the work and make the tough choices.
If you aren’t willing to face the difficult decisions head on, you don’t deserve anything better than what you’ve got.
Is high school pointless?
No, without high school serving as my catalyst for needing change, who knows how I would have turned out.
I don’t know if it’s better that high school sucked for me so there was no way but up compared to those who were at the top of their game and then started the downward trend.
It was proving that I wasn’t “that guy” any longer which propelled me forward whenever I wanted to quit, I’m not the Zac from high school.
In fact, this is one of the reasons I hate going back to my hometown, I think everyone sees the class clown and not the man who has made something of himself.
The only thing which remains from my high school days is my woman. Jackie and I have been together since 16 and at 33, we’ve been together for more than half our lives.
To the young parents who think their family is an anchor, I’d challenge you to shift your perspective and look at them as fuel.
I was married at 21, a father at 22 (my son), a father again at 25 (my daughter) and through it all I’ve viewed them to be the greatest source of inspiration to push further.
There is no excuse, if you want to more, it’s time to get in gear. If you need someone to assist you to help getting a life plan in order, I do offer several programs where we can work together to get you to where you need to be.
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